Before Kim K. few ever used this word. The news said that she had to cut 50 of the previously invited wedding guests due to “space issues”. How is this possible? How awkward is this! But it has happened to brides before, but it doesn’t usually happen this close to the event day. Kim K’s solution seems to have been to cut from her stepfather’s extended family and to review those now famous “plus ones”.
Making these calls to the guests involved are hard. Maybe the bride herself could do some, maybe her mother or the groom’s mother could call or even the maid of honor could make the calls on behalf of the bride. Someone in the wedding party who knows the guest (s) who are about to be “disinvited” should deliver the bad news.
Family members – extended or not – can usually be counted on to be the most understanding and accommodating. Guests to whom a “plus one” has been extended may find it a bit awkward. “Plus ones” refer to single guests who have been given the approval to bring a guest of choice unknown to the bride or groom.
This situation can be complicated when brides enthusiastically order lots of “save the date” cards as soon as they get engaged and set a date but before they have done any serious thinking about venues or budgets. Save the date cards imply that an invitation will follow as the date gets closer so many guests begin to think of them as “mini invites”. We recommend that key decisions be made before the cards are sent out and that a preliminary guest list or at least rough estimate of guest counts be set prior to sending out these cards.
We also recommend that the bride send save the date cards only to those persons they know they must have at their wedding and reception and who may have to travel to attend. They really shouldn’t be used as excited “I got engaged and need to tell the world” cards.
If you have questions regarding invitations and all they imply, please let us know. We can help you avoid lots of awkward moments.
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